In memory: suicide prevention resources

I usually post suicide prevention and mental health resources in December in memory of our son Paul. He would be 43 on his December 31 birthday. This year I’m sharing about the suicide prevention groups I belong to on Facebook. These groups vary in that some are open, secret, or closed. But in all cases they are caring and sensitive to the needs of someone trying to survive the death of a loved one by suicide. If you want to join, just ask, and some kind person in charge will more than likely accept you into the group. I’ve listed these in no particular order except for the first one. I was actively involved with Putting a Face on Suicide as volunteer admin for a couple of years. This organization has been priceless in always remembering our loved ones on their death and birthdays. I look forward to seeing my son’s face on that site on his New Years Eve birthday. Putting a Face on Suicide - A project that lovingly pays tribute to those lost to suicide. 2792 Faces on Day … [Read more...]

Getting the word out about my memoir day by day

There has been a lot of mentions of my memoir, Leaving the Hall Light On. On Saturday two women wrote they have to read my book in a conversation on the Facebook page called Loss of An Adult or Young Adult Child. Monday I got a call from an old friend of Bob’s who lives in Springfield IL that he just finished my book and how much he thinks it will help others. Yesterday I received an actual letter from a woman I’ve never met. She said “someone” gave her my book and this was “the first time I have found a story about my son Jason…our stories are the same.” Her own son died by suicide ten years ago. She also said – and this is mind blowing – that my Paul was in her home in Redondo Beach. She says she’d like to speak with me and left a phone number. I called and left a message but haven’t heard back. This letter only emphasizes how many stories are out there like my own. I hear words like this mother’s over and over again when I tell them what my book i … [Read more...]

Finding healing support and hugs on Facebook

The ocean's mellowing effect I recently joined a couple of groups on Facebook. One is called Grieving Mothers (there is a Grieving Fathers as well, started by the spouse of the woman who started the mother’s group), and Loss of an Adult or Young Adult Child. After joining both groups, my first question was: where were these groups when I needed them in September 1999? People post on them all day and night to share a story about their child who died, tell about the terrible time they are having just doing their daily lives, and ask questions – about how others are coping or what medications help them or how do they keep the memory of their children alive. They console each other, they give hugs (((((hugs)))), or they just rant. They also use the word angel for their lost child and call a new child conceived after the death of a child, a rainbow baby (the rainbow after the storm concept). I love that term and I only wish I had been young enough to have one after Paul died. … [Read more...]